b’day tribute time again!

Wishing my friend Robyn the happiest of birthdays. You know how special she is if you read my birthday blog about her last year. Every year I shall have a birthday tribute to her.

She is the one I can pick up the phone at any time, day or night, and she is there. If she cannot pick up, she always returns the call and is there. She is there in good times and bad times and in-between times. She is always there.

Like tonight, on her birthday eve, I called her because I am having a tough time…she is there. She has a lot on her plate and is there for me. And when I say there…I mean, THERE. Fully present, with the utmost love and understanding. She sees things that I don’t see, and she explains them to me in a loving way. She wants to make everything better, but as much as she wishes she could wave her magic wand, she knows she can’t. She also knows we all have to go through our stuff and heal. Yet, she is never dismissive and truly embraces my feelings understanding everything. She is honest, genuine, reflective, wise, empathetic, and one of the most down-to-earth, real people I have ever met, and when she loves, she really loves. I am not very trusting. I have a tough time really letting people in and trusting them. But I trust her with all my heart. I trust she loves me and wants only the best for me. I trust she will never abandon me.

We have been friends now for 31 years. I love that moment when we first met, and she had her feet up on the chair where I wanted to sit. That memory cracks me up. She didn’t look too happy with me, and I probably didn’t look too happy with her. But it wasn’t long before we were good friends. I don’t know how anyone could not be good friends with her. She is just so lovable. One thing that really impressed me about her was her circle of friends. I went to a party at her house, and there were many different types of people. Look at me! I was 32, and she was only 22. She was going to the same college, but for music, and I was going for a secretarial certificate. She was single, and I was already divorced with a five-year-old child. But we could not have been more suited for a beautiful friendship. Why? Despite our differences, we are very much the same. Our friendship rode the waves of life…in touch, out of touch, in touch, out of touch. We were in out-of-touch mode when she saw a post of mine on Facebook, and she picked up her phone and called me. She was the only friend to do so during that tumultuous time. We reconnected quickly. During that phone call, I found she was going through a tough time as well, so during the ensuing months, we were there for each other crying, laughing, sharing, and caring, and we have been non-stop for the past 3.5 years. We ride the waves of life together.

Robyn, I don’t know what I would have done without you in 2019. Honestly, I do not know if I would be here. There is no way I could ever repay you for your beautiful friendship and what your loving, caring, beautiful soul has done for me. I only hope I am as good a friend as you are. I love you so much. Thank you for your love and friendship for 31 years and for picking up the phone and calling me in 2019.

You deserve everything good in life, my friend! May this birthday year bring you love, peace, joy, good health, and much less stress, and may you get positive answers on many things. You are in my heart and prayers always.

Thanks for always standing by me Robyn. This reminds me of you.

A message to whoever else is reading this blog … do you have a friend you have not spoken to in a while? If it was a wonderful friendship, it still will be, and it will be amazing just pick up the phone, call, or send a letter and rekindle that friendship.